 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My father-in-law passed away recently. It was sudden and unexpected. My husband is grief-stricken and I'm doing my best to support him since he wasn't even able to be with his father at the end. I'm pregnant, with a boy, and my husband wants to name our son after his father. I don't want to. In the first place, it's my turn to name the baby (my husband named our daughter) and in the second place, I couldn't stand my father-in-law. I know he wasn't truly a bad man at heart, but he was an obnoxious, know-it-all braggart. He was one of those guys who thought every waitress and checkout girl was flirting with him, he thought he could tell me how to cook dishes from my culture because he once ate them in my parent's country of origin in the '70s, he never once saw my father without reminding him how much more money he (my father-in-law) made and how, unlike my father, he paid for his children's college tuitions and weddings. He read a short magazine article about the work I do and then thought he knew more about my work than I do. My husband keeps telling me the only thing that will help him through this rough time is knowing our son will be named after his late father. I just can't do it. I've suggested we use his name as a middle name, but my husband wants the full name and nothing less. Is there any way to compromise on this? — Just Can't Do It | 
