 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Hi, Carolyn: A few evenings ago, I had to log on to the home computer to retrieve a document and to my shock, my husband had a video-chat box that he had left up where he was very clearly sexting or video-hooking-up with some random person online. It paralyzed me. I know I should have immediately confronted him with this, but I was and am quite frankly extremely angry, hurt and disappointed. A little over a year ago, I caught him sexting with an ex-fling, which he claimed was "just joking." Yes, he is very sloppy and had the phone in very plain sight, much like the computer. We went to counseling, and I conveyed to him that honesty is very important to me even if the truth is hard, and that, while I can't control what he does, I feel his doing that to me is very disrespectful. I thought we had gotten past it, but now this happens. He still acts all lovey-dovey and sweet to me, yet does this in secret. I feel like I no longer know my husband. I will have to talk to him soon, when I feel like I can have a somewhat calm, rational conversation with him, especially since I am tired of faking a good mood and my acting chops are not that good. Is he a sex addict? Do I just ask him what he is really looking to find by doing this? Does he need an open marriage? How should I approach this? — Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde | 
