 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My husband and I own a second home in a popular vacation beach. We are mostly retired and spend the summers at this house. Our two adult children both live about three hours away from our primary and second home. We hardly see them, especially after this past year of shutdown. They both asked to use the beach house for a week with their friends. We are expected to not be there but leave sheets/towels/food etc. and miss two weeks of our summer. I agreed to this but mentioned we would love if they come and spend time with us. Neither has children and both have plenty of vacation time, so I don't think time is an issue. I would consider our relationship with both kids as good and there's no major family drama. How do I get them not to use us as a hotel? It feels very selfish not to let them enjoy it, but I guess I can't make them want to spend time with us? — Anonymous | 
