 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My 13-year-old recently came out to their grandmother, my mother-in-law. Grandma sighed, "It is what it is." Not terribly enthusiastic, right? My child is crestfallen. When my husband suggested to our child that they spend some time with Grandma this summer, our child said they have no interest spending time with Grandma ever again. While my husband states he doesn't "know why" his child is making such a big deal about this and he doesn't "know what to do," I am fairly secure in my perspective on the situation and mama-bear instincts, which tell me to protect my young. I should resist the temptation to insert myself and wifesplain to my husband that his obligation is to protect his child and not please his — I'm going to say it — homophobic mother, right? I should resist the temptation to reach out to my mother-in-law and explain to her that her gay grandchild is feeling rejected by her, right? My job is not to be the emissary, is it? — E. | 
