 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: What to do when we have different energy levels in a marriage? I realize now I have been reducing my own physical activity for years because I didn't want to be resentful of my husband, who prefers to watch TV on the couch. Our young kids just started a solo sport and I have started doing that same sport while they are at practice. It has been invigorating and fun to be active again, and increased my confidence. I feel as if I am in a mini midlife crisis of discovering my own power and questioning whether I have been squandering it to stay at the lower ambition level of my husband. How can I reconcile wanting more for myself while my husband doesn't? We talk about it and he tries incremental changes, but nothing sticks because it's not something he wants for himself. And I tell him that I feel bad that I want him to be something he is not. I end up doing a lot of things alone, which is fine. But I sometimes imagine sharing an active life with someone and it gives me pangs of "what if." I especially imagine a woman who would fully embrace my husband exactly the way he is, which would also help his confidence. How can I be that woman? — Different Level | 
