 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My friend "Chloe" was raised to be fairly independent (as was I), but she married "Joel," who is very traditional and likes to wax poetic about how important it is for the husband to provide so that the wife can focus all her attention on the home. I suppose this is a valid setup that works for some people, and Chloe seems happy with him, so be it. Except that for the past five years or so, with Joel's urging, Chloe is actually becoming sort of a multilevel marketing queen. My disdain for that industry aside, I find it really strange that spending several hours each day working on building her MLM cred somehow does not count as "work." She knows not to bug me about sales or try to recruit me, but the entirety of her social media presence revolves around what looks to me like a regular job. How do I respond to Joel when he inevitably (and frequently) goes off on one of his self-congratulatory diatribes about how wonderful it is to have his wife home, and what an incredible feeling it is to provide for her and their child? — Anonymous | 
