Carolyn Hax: When a marriage starts to feel transactional, how do you choose love?

After 10 years and the isolation of the pandemic, a marriage is starting to feel transactional. ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌  ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌

Sign up for this newsletter Read online Advice to help you tackle life's problems.     (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) When a marriage starts to feel transactional, how do you choose love? Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I know it sounds sort of obvious, but can you (and others) say more about how to choose love in a marriage? I'm 10 years in with my husband and during isolation central with our elementary-schooler, things started to feel transactional instead of rooted in a deep love. I have moments of wondering if this is all there is, but I wouldn't want to hurt or break up my family. How do you choose love? — Wondering Read Carolyn's Response     ADVERTISEMENT   Want more? Carolyn's been writing her advice column for two decades. Explore the archives below. Looking for the right time and the right way to tell a friend you're dating her ex Read more »   Your husband won't be the life of the party, and that's okay Read more »   Couple's squabbling short-circuits fun in their outings Read more »     We think you'll like this newsletter Check out Recipes for seasonal and delicious recipes from Post food editors and experts, every Saturday. Sign up »

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