 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: Someone I thought I was going to marry turned out to have major trauma from childhood. When it started to come up, he took it out on me. I didn't understand what was happening so I went from being joyful to being close to tears nearly every day. He was in weekly therapy, but I didn't see any evidence of it. We had been such great friends that I was thoroughly convinced that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. When I finally realized what was happening, and he had for the nth time refused to see things from my point of view, I ended things. Which was also the first point he apologized for some cruel things he said. Now, over a year later, I still am burdened with whether I did the right thing. Should I have waited it out? He was in therapy. As a friend, he was wonderful. It might have taken him a while, but I think eventually he would have been a loving husband. Or am I being delusional? Is it just normal to grieve this long for something that only kinda sorta happened? — Ended Love | 
