 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: This past week, my stepmom ended up in the hospital because my dad hurt her so bad. A lot of truth came out, especially after she said my mom warned her about my dad and she should have listened. All these years, she and my dad have been lying to me about the divorce, lying about my mom and I believed it all. Because of that, I've been sort of distant from my mom since my dad remarried five years ago. After I got off the phone with my stepmom, I talked to my brother, who stuck by my mom and always tried to tell me they were liars. He told me I should remember the fights when we were little, and my dad screaming and throwing things, but in my memory none of it was that bad. I'm so ashamed. I don't even know how to make it up to my mom, who through all of this always told me she still loved me, even with all the hard words I threw at her. I'm beating myself up now wondering why I chose to believe my dad when there were so many signs I was wrong. I called and had a crying talk with her, and I'm avoiding my dad's calls since I don't know what to even say to him. What do I do now? — So Ashamed | 
