 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My niece is getting married soon, and I just learned from my sister (the bride's mom) that my niece has chosen to have her dad walk her down the aisle. My sister and former brother-in-law divorced when their two children were young, and the children lived primarily with my sister. My sister supported the family on her own income since the ex-husband hardly worked. As well, he was self-centered and immature in a way that made him abusive, unsupportive and inadequate as a parent. As they grew older, both children severely curtailed contact with their dad. My niece and my sister have a close and loving relationship. Now my niece has resumed a relationship with her dad. She says he has changed a lot, and I hope this is true because having a healthy and loving relationship with one's father can be a source of joy and support. My sister mentioned to my niece that both parents could walk her down the aisle, but my niece did not take her up on the suggestion. This has hurt my sister deeply. It makes me so sad to see my sister distressed, and so angry at my niece. Please help me to figure out how to move forward with compassion and support for each of them as the big day nears. — Anonymous | 
