 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Dear Carolyn: My daughter is having a baby. She and her husband live in Europe. She has not spoken to her father (my husband) for four years. When she decided to remarry and move there permanently, her father disapproved of her choice. They became angry at each other. She broke off contact with us. Her husband threatened that we would never see her again unless we apologized. I kept calling and talking to her for a year before she took me back. My husband remains estranged. I pressured one, then the other, to make up. It only made them angry at me. I almost got a divorce. I ended up alone in therapy for a while. I know: I got stuck in the middle. But I took responsibility, I showed remorse, I forgave. I now have a good relationship with each of them. The baby is coming, and I want to visit. My husband gets upset whenever I bring up the subject. What are the right words for me to say to him before I buy myself a plane ticket? — What to Say | 
