 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My cousin is now the only one living in her immediate family. Her parents, brother and sister have died. She is divorced and has a daughter who lives several hours away. I am her only cousin and I also live far away. She has been struggling with depression and is in treatment. I have been calling her, texting, etc., and I get a response about 25 percent of the time. Once I was so concerned I asked her whether she thought about harming herself. She denies any suicidal thoughts and says she is feeling somewhat better. How much do I keep texting and calling? I get frustrated when she doesn't respond or when we set up a time to talk and she cancels. I know grief mixed with depression is an awful combination, but sometimes I take it personally and question if she really wants me in her life. I don't want her to feel guilty, so I haven't asked her about how much contact is too much. I touch base about twice a month. Should I back off? — Concerned Cousin | 
