 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband and I are expecting our first child after trying for a long time. I thought my parents would be thrilled for us, especially knowing it was a struggle. But this whole thing has been very much … their third grandchild. They've always been more enthusiastic and involved with anything my sister does. They lavished her with attention during her pregnancies and dote on her kids. They haven't sent us anything for the baby — though it's not really about the gifts — or really checked in at all minus perfunctory questions like how I'm feeling. Tonight we shared the baby's name, with the middle name after my father, and their reaction was … maybe mild happiness before changing the subject. How do I let it go, that my parents aren't going to give me the emotional support and enthusiasm I could use right now? More importantly, how do I navigate my child being the second-banana grandchild, which I can already anticipate? — Second Banana | 
