 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Hi Carolyn: Going into the pandemic, my boyfriend and I were in very different financial positions — food industry versus high-paid professional — which was always a bit touchy but we mostly worked it out. Now my job hasn't changed but he has spent time out of work, and he had little cushion. He's asked me for loans throughout, and I've given him money without any expectation of ever getting repaid. (I can afford it.) But I'm finding myself resentful as I feel as if he's not bringing the non-monetary equivalent to the relationship, and it makes me worry I'm being taken advantage of and am too stupid to notice. But we're also living in weird times, and maybe the reasons we aren't seeing each other as much as I would like are real and justified. I am having a difficult time articulating all this, though, because when I hear the words in my head it sounds like I'm arguing that I've paid up and he now owes me. I don't want this to poison our relationship, but I also worry that if I can have these thoughts about someone I purportedly love, maybe I think too little of him to be with him? I know this isn't really a question, but I would appreciate any advice on how to sort this out. — Am I the Sugar Mama? | 
