(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My first baby was born three months ago. Because of the challenges with care during covid, we have decided I'm going to take the plunge and become a full-time parent. I am planning to put in my notice tomorrow. And yet … I feel very anxious about the whole thing. It's not that I will miss my job. The main benefit is the paycheck and the fact that it keeps me busy. It's more that I feel that I'm about to surrender a lot of control to my husband, on whom I will now depend financially. I know generations of spouses have done this. But I also know it has led to many women getting stranded in untenable situations. I love my husband. He makes enough money to support us. I trust him. But people fall out of love all the time. I don't have a safety net in the form of wealthy parents, and I would like to think I will work again someday, when the pandemic is over and my kid is in school (or kids). Why am I struggling so hard to take a leap of faith that so many other families do easily? — Cold Feet |