 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: When my husband died in 2017, I found out how friends of many years suddenly avoid widows. I sold our home and, until I could retire to a resort location near my good friend, moved in with an acquaintance who had a room for rent. My landlady is not easy to live with — she's sloppy, and constantly "borrows" my food without asking and takes days to replace it. I've asked her to stop but she doesn't. My company merged last year and put extra work on those of us who were kept. My boss also has been heavily relying on me since other people in the group are slacking off due to difficulties working from home. When I complain, all I get are platitudes. Lately the only thing that cheers me up is the idea of just disappearing. I have money to retire and there's a perfect house on the market in my retirement town. I plan to file my resignation late one Friday when I'm the last one online. I can leave two months' rent (we agreed on 60 days' notice) and just take off early Saturday for my friend's place. I'll call my daughter on the way but leave no information for anyone else. Neither my boss nor my landlady has earned more consideration. I'm so looking forward to pulling this off. Is there any reason not to? — Want to Disappear | 
