 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Hi, Carolyn: I was a co-maid of honor at my friend's wedding. The other maid of honor, "Kate," was moody and rude, mainly to me but generally as well, even more so than usual. I just ignored Kate, as it was my friend's big day. A few weeks later, the bride told me Kate's dad was dying of cancer and Kate had tried to call my friend, the bride, leading up to the wedding to talk. My friend said she just didn't have time due to wedding planning, and now doesn't want to be friends with Kate anymore because of the way Kate acted at the wedding. I was kind of floored. Friendship means being there for a friend who is going through one of the worst times of their lives, even if it's just for a phone call, and that should eclipse last-minute wedding details. I wouldn't act out as Kate did but I do understand why she felt that way. By the end of the day Kate seemed to have a great time. This has made me question my friendship with the bride. If she is willing to write off her best friend for a bad moment, whom she has known for longer and was closer to, how will I be treated in the future? — Questioning |
