 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband and I are in our 40s and have done multiple rounds of in vitro fertilization, unsuccessfully. We're tossing around the idea of adopting, however, I'm worried about the lack of "bond" I or my husband might feel. My parents adopted two boys when I was in college and one feels like a brother but I have no attachment to the other. This could be because of what that brother did — theft, drugs, lying. My now-father-in-law basically criticized my parents for adopting, and I worry he would throw that in our faces as well. My dad and brother, on the other hand, are super-supportive. My dad is willing to help out financially. How do I get over these worries? — Struggling | 
