 (Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Hi Carolyn: My husband and I have a toddler and want another child. Since college, I've lived away from my entire extended family. I yearn to live near them and give my child(ren) the experience of growing up near grandparents, aunts/uncles and cousins. I'm also the eldest, and feel the need to live closer to care for my parents. I'm trying to figure out how to even broach this topic with my husband, other than my random quips every now and then: "I miss my family so much," and, "Gosh, I wish we lived closer." He did not grow up living near grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins, so I don't know if he understands my underlying desire. Fairness is important. I understand we will see my family more than his if we move. But it is an effort for any family member to visit us where we are — mine or his. Long drives, plane rides, etc. We are pretty balanced right now, but I am much closer to my family than he is to his. Maybe I can just ride this feeling out for 5 or 10 more years, when long-distance travel isn't as hard as it is with toddlers? However, I want to stand up for the life I want. How do I do this when (I think) I know this isn't what my partner wants? It would mean a new job and city for him. He could easily find work in this new city. — Helpless, Sad and Stuck | 
