(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend and I have started doing a weekly movie night, where we "take turns" choosing a movie and watch it together, with snacks and beers and laughter. Why do I put that phrase in quotation marks? Because even though I have sat through every single one of my boyfriend's picks, including the very boring one that was just a 90-minute car chase and the one that scared me so badly I couldn't sleep that night, somehow it always works out that if I pick a movie he doesn't want to watch, I end up getting pressured into choosing something else instead. Either he sighs and makes a big show of what a sacrifice he's going to make by watching it, or else he outright asks me to pick something in some other category because he's "not in the mood" for whatever I picked. I don't want to force him to watch movies he doesn't want to watch. I also don't want to be a spoilsport who vetoes his choices just because they aren't what I want to watch. Is there a way to compromise that doesn't undermine the whole point? — Movie Night |