(Nick Galifianakis for The Post) | Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband lost his job almost five months ago now. While I didn't expect him to get a job right away, I did expect him to be getting some interviews. Nothing. He admits he isn't trying as hard as he could. He's looking for the "right fit," which I appreciate. However, I feel with the economic climate, his age, his field, he should just be looking for any job and then, once working again, keep looking for a job that rings all his bells. He agrees. We have talked about it two or three times. He continues to say, "I need to do more," but then I don't see him doing more. I'm not hovering or nagging — I've got my own work to do. He's volunteering, has hobbies, and he's picked up household chores I had been doing. My workload has actually been reduced since he's been unemployed. However, I think if this continues it could trigger a deeper dive into depression, which he is prone to. How do I support a job search without being a nag? I feel annoyed that he is prioritizing other things over finding a job. — Not Hovering |